Mother always said she could “no way, never” kill herself Only once in her life did she even think about suicide, she said.
About two years after Adam’s death, she realized her period was overdue by a couple of days. Then a couple more. Then more than a week. Finally, she called her mother and announced, “If I had a car, I’d drive it into a brick wall.”
When I came home from a day when I was supposed to’ve been at school, Grandma knew I hadn’t been there. Anticipating my question about mother, she abruptly declared, “She’s tired. She’s resting.” That same tone mother, the lady whose name I never knew and all the other adults in the neighborhood would use to pre-empt a probe.
I could only suppose that I’d had something to do with mother’s fatigue. She would never deny my suspicion, but years later—not long ago, during one of the last times we talked—she said that after seeing what her mother’d gone through and anticipating what I had yet to go through--not to mention her own struggles—she couldn’t bear the thought of bringing someone else into this world, onto this block.
She was younger, much younger than I am now. Still, even today, I see her then as old, or at least older and tireder than I’ve ever been. Or that she was old and tired in ways that I haven’t been, at least not yet.
But there’s still the operation, and whatever will come after it.
Mother’d had an operation. Grandma told me later; then, much later, mother told me she’d had her tubes tied. She probably couldn’t’ve explained it to me because she didn’t want to; when she told me, not long ago, what she’done, she didn’t need to.
As she recalled that time, I remembered the days, the weeks that led up to it: Mother crying that she didn’t know what to do with me, she didn’t know what she would do; she should’ve known this was coming, that it would be so difficult, that her life and mine could only get more difficult.
About the time mother told me this story, I heard about the childhood—if you can call it that—of someone I’d heard about but met only once. She died not long after our meeting.
Lucinda—Lucy—‘d been born in a male body that would get whatever blows her father had left in his fists after punching and slamming his wife into unconsciousness. Lucy’s mother, according to her friends, poured out two glasses of milk laced with rat poison. Before they drank, Lucy’s mother called the police and told them what she was about to do.
Two officers arrived to find Lucy’s mother’s body curled on the peeling tiles of the kitchen floor. Lucy—then known as Christopher—sat near her mother’s head, and clutched her stomach as a grayish-white pool spread around her feet.
After Lucy’d left her father’s beatings for the sullen streets and rotting piers near the city’s most (in)famous red-light district, cops fished the long, dark body of Evangeline, her first lover, from the water just off the piers she worked.
Lucy talked long and loud, without rage, until someone mentioned the coroner’s report on Evangeline. “Fuckin’ bullshit, “ she hissed. “No-body around me kuh-mits soo-ih-side. Noo-body!”
I’d been thinking about—no, envisioning—offing myself the day before, as I had nearly every day back then. I had no place to stay, no money and, it seemed, no way to make any. I wasn’t so pretty to begin with, and I was getting older, old—at least for that world. The hormones had begun to do their work, so I wasn’t getting any erections. But my penis was still there, and my ass and waist were still just about the same size.
Still, I could pass, most of the time—probably because I was fortunate enough not to have an Adam’s Apple. But I wondered how long I’d keep that up. Even though women weren’t doing double-takes when I used their bathrooms, some men did when I walked out the door.
I realize now that perhaps I didn’t have any friends, that maybe I never did. But still, it hurts as much—perhaps even more—when you can’t even hold onto the illusion of friendship. Or of love. I’d already lost Vivian when she thought I’d become too much of a girl. Lost Marabeth, too. And ,it seemed, the only ones who noticed, much less wanted, me were men I’d see at night.
You know you’re not just a recreational cross-dresser when you need to come out during the day, as the woman you are. When going to work—whatever it is—or to the store, to lunch, anyplace as someone other than the one as whom you identify becomes a crushing, deadening load. Even the air you inhale doesn’t enter your own lungs: It disappears down the neck of a cave into a hollow you’ll never see.
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