36. Naming

Having an “illegible scrawl” is not such a bad thing sometimes. I’ve never liked putting my name on any kind of list. But how can I not name myself as one of the people who attended my mother’s wake and funeral? At least my mother, if she could see it, would recognize the long loop underneath a staff that contracts into the sharp joints of a seismometer wave. She’d know it anywhere—even in death, I believe—but no one else, not even my father, I’m sure, could ever read it. Not that it would’ve mattered. Something occurred to me as I signed guest book at the entrance to the funeral parlor: If anybody else could decipher that blue gash I sliced across the page, it’d be the lady whose name I never knew. I don’t know why I thought that—well, I didn’t know at that moment, anyway. But somehow it would make sense that she, who’d never before that day done more than glance at me while she spoke with my mother, could decode that scrawl, or many of the other things that, it seemed, only my mother understood. After all, she seemed to notice, as I did, mother’s mouth, firm but delicate with a top lip like a crossbow, the lines darting and disappearing around it into the soft but unyielding curves of her cheekbones. And, I thought, if anybody besides my mother could recognize my voice after not seeing or hearing from me for generations, for lifetimes, it’d be the lady whose name I never knew.

She short-circuited the sigh I was about to heave when she avoided looking at my name by staring at me. Besides her, only mother could’ve done that.

And then a dream—one of the few I’ve ever made any effort to remember—came to mind. I don’t remember when I first dreamt it, but I’m sure it was long ago, probably when I was still on this block. Could’ve been a daydream, for all I remember. A shadow descended—quickly, at first—but its plunge fluttered to a glide as it neared the ground like sand skittering under ripples spilling into foam in the horizon. Long, silky strands unfurled as the shadow touched the ground.

It swirled in the wind like clouds and whirled more furiously around something I couldn’t see; it was like the eye of a storm. In the distance, the wind stuttered the tail of the shadow. It was a mare -- Don’t ask me how I knew; you just know certain things sometimes in dreams. – that skipped in widening loops through tall reeds flickering where I would’ve seen a dusk—or a dawn—if the gray tide of the sky hadn’t spilled against the line of that shore.

The long strands of that shadow, turning brown and silky, writhed and wriggled in the wind, which was winding along curves I couldn’t see and wrapped themselves around cumulus curlicues.

I followed one strand, softening in a wind, that seemed to be falling off a line at the edge of that land—I wasn’t sure whether it was a tidal marsh, a beach or simply a cool, damp , windswept field.—until I saw her face. In my real world—that is, my everyday, waking world—she’d never had such hair. But in the dream, it was hers; it couldn’t’ve been anyone else’s: it was soft in a way you can only remember, like a light in a room where you spent your very first days: a light you never can experience again, except in your dreams

Mother and I never talked about dreams, and only rarely about other people. I can’t remember a conversation about “the future” or my future. For that matter, she never mentioned the past—not hers or anyone else’s—and this doesn’t surprise me now. Somehow it never occurred to me to ask her if she envisioned herself at a kitchen table with me, or with any one child—I am her only one, as far as I know—and no one else. No man, no friends—neither mine nor hers—nor any other sentient, conscious being.

I can’t remember her uttering any forbiddance of bringing my friends to the house. It would’ve been superfluous, anyway: I had no contact with the other kids beyond the school hallways ant the paths we took along the sidewalks and streets to and from our homes and school. And my mother talked to Mrs. Rolfe, Mrs. Littington and that lady who followed me to the bathroom and the sign-in book when they passed each other’s houses or when they met surreptitiously in a store or some other place.

I doubt she’d foreseen coming to know any of them, any more than I can envision this person whom I’ve become, who came to mourn her. Perhaps this was the reason she—and, as far as I could tell they—could only see themselves in that eternity of their own lives: that moment called the present, which of course they never named. Giving a moment--or any person, place or thing—a name, or calling it something, makes you as separate from it as my mother’s (and presumably their) God from the word, the light, the water, the garden and Adam and Eve. And those names for the way people acted, for circles of friends, for neighbors: Once you use them, they separate you from them or them from you, the way foods you ate when you were growing up become memories when you learn the names other people call them. I learned that mom’s eggplant salad was called caponata; the tomato sauces she made were called marinara, boulognese and so on. Once I learned those names, those foods—even though I still love them—were no longer mine or my mother’s.

Now I know that people—some’re called psychoanalysts, others call them priests, fortunetellers, soldiers or any number of other names—have their names for my home, my mother, the clouds and everything else in the dream, and for the dream itself. And for whatever part of my brain, or whatever it was, that made the dream happen. I don’t know those names now, and maybe I never did or never will. Somewhere along the way I stopped getting an education (with a capital E). You spend enough time in school and everything becomes a type or a category—here or there, this color or that color, the past or the future. But not the present: there is only Time. (Yes, with a capital T.) Everything on this block—all of the people, the houses we lived in, the funeral parlor where we met, probably for the last time—are all moments out of Time. Until the moment when that lady followed me, I’d been living in Time, never in any moment, because all those other moments were gone.

But that lady didn’t know my name, the one I chose for myself. Nor did anyone else in that funeral parlor. If they’d wanted to, they could’ve talked all day with me and they’d’ve forgotten it by now because they didn’t know my name. I wouldn’t’ve minded that, really.